According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary ANXIETY anx·i·ety \aŋ-ˈzī-ə-tē\
is a noun and the simple definition is “fear or nervousness about what may happen.”
In our hectic modern-day society parents are extremely busy multitasking from day to day and trying to fulfill work, school, extracurricular and social schedules. How do we fit everything into just 24 hours a day? Simply raising children that do not have any health problems or disabilities can be a challenge for most parents throughout the world. After all, we all want our children to grow up and become successful contributors of society, don’t we???
This raises an important point about how to deal with the anxiety of raising a child or children with food allergies and how to properly manage this day-to-day worry? My boys CAN DIE if they ingest only a trace amount of dairy, nuts or eggs! Do I have anxiety that relates to caring for our children? HECK YES I DO!
I’m by no means a medical clinician, but I am a MOM and I have had to learn how to cope with my constant worry about my children’s health and safety for over 8 1/2 years now.
People deal with anxiety in many different ways, from not acknowledging it may exist, to proactively managing it by either exercise, meditation, pharmaceuticals, alcohol, food, yoga, etc…to each is his/her own. The point I’m trying to convey in this post is that as common as it is to have anxiety from caring for a child or loved one with life-threatening food allergies, it is also just as important to (1) Acknowledge you do worry and (2) Learn how to deal with it in a way that works best for you.
I have been an athlete for as long as I can remember. I competed as a ski racer for the better part of my life, and competed in golf and tennis throughout my youth and still enjoy these activities today. For many summers in my mid 30’s I trained hard and raced in many triathlons. I love the dedication it takes to train really hard and reach your performance goals! It’s simply in my DNA to be a competitor. Most of my family members competed at high levels during one point in their lives.
Whether I’m mountain biking or trail running with our dog Scout, these activities have helped me to manage my anxiety in a positive way, and in general, become a better mother to our two food allergic boys and a better wife to my husband. I’m a busy body and could not properly function without exercise being a huge part of my daily life!
I often wonder what works for other parents that are caring for anaphylactic children? How do you manage your anxiety? If you have food allergies yourself, how do you manage the stress?
During the better part of my 20’s I was an avid Yoga-junky! For some reason, I got away from regular yoga for about a decade or so. I have had lots of athletic-related injuries, and not to make an excuse, but it just got away from me.
Last Saturday, my husband took it upon himself to sign me up for a local yoga class online. He said to me, “You’re going and you’ll really enjoy it.” I’m so fortunate that my husband listens to me, as I had been complaining for a few weeks about how I needed to get back into yoga but just couldn’t find the time…blah…blah…blah…excuses!
By Jason signing me up for that class I am now completely hooked again! I love everything about it from “centering,” to working on perfecting my alignment with different poses, focusing, meditating, strengthening, and working on me and my mental health! I might add, I was literally dripping in sweat for the ENTIRE hour and a half class! Thank you Tiffany — by the way! Yoga for me is a nice supplement to all of the other athletic activities I enjoy regularly! Besides, let’s face it, I’m NOT getting any younger and need to invest in such practices for my physical well-being and my sanity in general!
I understand that exercise and yoga are not for everyone. (ie. I still play the piano from time to time and I obviously love to cook!)
Whatever you may do to manage your anxiety as a person with food allergies, a caregiver of someone with food allergies or none of the above, it’s important to find what works best for you. It may be a combination of things. Please do yourself a favor and take care of yourself so you can be the best you can be for yourself and for your loved ones!